i just tried dselect update one more time and IT WORKED !. Maybe it was my Cable connnection it was a little slugish.
i no longer get the same error message about "unmet dependecies" but now it says

root@silver:/home/c01100011# apt-get --reinstall install mplayer
Reading Package Lists... Done
Building Dependency Tree... Done
E: The package mplayer needs to be reinstalled, but I can't find an archive for it.

wierd responce almost scary not everyday my computer says I...

yet again HELP
(sorry for being such a newbie)